Pressure On Our Kids To Always Win

It is a great feeling when one’s child wins at games or competitions but we need to be careful on the pressure we put our children through if they lose. As parents we need to also teach our children how to lose gracefully because winning and losing are an important part of life.

This is because even ordinary games have an element of competition to it and someone must win and someone must lose. I am not trying to encourage us to teach children to lose but sometimes it will happen and we need to teach them to be okay with it while planning to be better next time.

I have heard of a mother who picked a quarrel with her son’s school because the boy came second position and he was always coming first. She took it personally and blamed the teachers while also beating her child for not keeping up!!

There is a show called Child Genius which was aired in the UK recently,where two boys were shown weeping after losing the competition. 11 year old Rubaiyat was defeated by eventual winner,Sharon Daniel while Tudor Mendel-Idowu who is just 8 years old was also seen crying. Infact,Tudor’s parents were shown wincing or shaking their heads whenever he got a question wrong.

Sharon

 

Tudor

The chief executive of a children’s welfare charity,Kidscape,Claude Knights said a number of parents are making their children emotionally distressed with their unnecessarily high expectations off them.

Rubaiyat

Meanwhile,I totally agree that children should be taught to identify creative alternatives for their losses or failure and they shouldn’t be made to feel too bad by an occasional setback. Parents can then make it a big deal if the child doesn’t make an attempt to improve

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