So Its Another Valentine's Day & You Are Still Single? Find Out How To Cope. ~ BimzTheory

February 14th is Valentine's Day and I know many singles are dreading the day already especially the women.

So many women have been taught to hold Valentine’s Day in high regard and often feel like they’re lacking in the relationship area of their life if they are single on Valentine’s Day or any other day of the year.

While longing to be in a loving relationship is perfectly normal and healthy, if you feel like less of a person because you’re single that’s a problem.

Unfortunately, society teaches us that we’re not complete if we’re not in a romantic relationship and as a result of this, a lot people feel like they don’t measure up and even go as far as being in a relationship with the wrong person just to meet up.

The bible states that we are complete in Christ. (Colossians 2:10) and as followers of Christ we’re called to believe that. Sometimes, you may not feel complete without a significant other, in fact you may feel very broken and alone, but we are never too broken for Jesus.

The truth is, it is not easy seeing other people being in relationships and happy and it can be a struggle to even hold on to God's word sometimes.

But gradually, as you mature in your walk with God, you come to realise that as followers of Christ, we are to see ourselves as whole, not broken BUT complete in His eyes and lacking no good thing.

Although Valentines Day can be a painful reminder of the fact that you’re single, it doesn’t have to be. Instead of being depressed about still being single on another Valentine’s Day, here are some things to focus on instead.

Celebrate The Love You Do Have In Your Life

From family and friends to church community and co-workers; most people have someone in their life that loves and cares about them. While you might not have all the relationships you want in life including a romantic one, I’m sure you have some good ones.

Think about the poor orphan refugee on the other side of the world. Lonely and all alone. Don’t you think they’d be happy to know they had just one person that loved them? And how many people do you have that love you? After you've counted all of them (if you can) I hope you see how blessed you are.

Celebrate Someone Else

Valentine’s Day is not a day that typically issues a call for volunteers to help the less fortunate like Christmas and Thanksgiving, but it doesn't have to be a special holiday to do something nice for someone else. Think of creative ways to celebrate the people you love or even strangers and let them know they are appreciated.

You can even start a new tradition by deciding to honor all the single women in your life by letting them know they are loved by God and giving them small gifts or just calling them up on that day.

Celebrate Love For Yourself

Do you love yourself? Do you like yourself? No, really pause and think about it for a minute, because a lot of people don’t. They are looking for other people or activities to fill up the void that only God can fill.

They think “If I could just get somebody to commit to me then I’ll be complete” or “If I could just get him to love me enough then I’ll be OK”. Well contrary to what you may think if you don’t love or like yourself now, you won’t when Mr or Mrs Right comes along.

So how do you celebrate love for yourself? I know John 3:16 can sound kinda generic and cliche, that God so loved the world and you just happen to be down here. I don’t think there’s a one-size-fits-all answer, as we’re all unique. Just ask God to show you how.

Realize God Is Your Valentine

Sometimes I think the good things about God can sound the cheesiest. Maybe because in this fallen world the concept of getting something for nothing is virtually nonexistent.

No man, no matter how fine, how much money he has or how much he loves God, is capable of saving you. Jesus is the ONLY one that saves. And He loves you way more than any man ever can. He created the whole universe and he wants a personal intimate relationship with you.

I’m sure you have a lot to be thankful for this Valentine’s Day. Try focusing on that. Don’t EVER let society, the media, friends or anyone else make you feel bad about being single on Valentine’s Day or any other day.